Il Dolce Far Niente

The sweetness of doing nothing, il dolce far niente, is a wonderful Italian expression that perfectly captures the exquisite gift of living in, and fully appreciating, the moment.

Like most Americans, the ability to live in the moment was for me an abstract idea. Proud of my ability to multitask circles around most people, of my job as director of two hospital departments, of never sitting still for a moment, the concept of "the sweet do-nothing" was at once incredibly appealing and completely foreign.

The concept was foreign, that is, until January 2009 when life intervened and I was abruptly "reorganized" out of my job at the hospital where I worked for almost 20 years.
So now, at age 60, here I am living an enforced life of "il dolce far niente." I find myself in the enviable position of having a lot of time on my hands and (initially at least) no idea what to do with it. Although I focus a part of each day doggedly searching for a new job, most of my calendar is so empty it echoes.

But to my surprise, rather than feeling adrift in days without schedules, meetings and agendas, I now know that there is such a richness, such a gift in enjoying each day on its own merit. Rather than controlling my time, I'm learning to allow it to unfold and am almost always pleased with what life presents me.

In this blog, I want to share that richness as I discover the beauty of simple things - while still coming to terms with being unemployed for the first time in my life in an economy that's tanking and where jobs are few and far between. What I hope will evolve through this blog (for you as well as for me) is a true appreciation for another way of living. We'll just have to see how it goes.

Friday, August 21, 2009

Leapin' Lizards, Part II


I spend a part of every day wandering around our yard, testing the tomatoes for degree of ripeness, watching the birds, looking for gopher holes. On any given day we have an equal number of each - good news when you're talking about tomatoes and birds, not so much for gopher holes. I expect that within a month or so our little lawn will collapse and disappear as the gophers finally manage to excavate and carry away the last remaining bit of dirt from underneath, accompanied by a tiny subterranean cheer and rodent high-fiving (or high-however-many-digits-they-have), culminating in an exuberant tossing of miniature hard hats into the air.

As I wander I also take note of our blue bellies who continue to amaze me.

This is the season for baby lizards which we seem to have in abundance. Yesterday I was examining a gopher hole when a movement on the ground caught my eye...it was a baby lizard no bigger than a minute. The thing about these babies is they hatch with the instinct to flee firmly ingrained in their reptilian DNA but they're not quite sure yet where to or who from. I carefully put my hand down next to this baby, and without hesitation the little guy ran right up onto my outstretched palm. From there he rested on my index finger, his body no longer than the distance from my finger tip to the first joint, his tail adding another inch. He was a weightless, perfect specimen - alert, still, and very comfortable on his perch. We walked around the garden for a bit, until I gently put him back on the ground where I found him.

Just as seasons change, so do these amazing lizards as we move from Summer into Fall. No more fighting males, or mating rituals. Now I see adult lizards shedding their skin as they grow, their tattered too-tight suits hanging off their bodies while bright, brand new skin appears underneath. It's a rather untidy transition; unlike snakes who neatly slip out of their skins (lizards, after all, have four sleeves to contend with), lizards sort of burst out of theirs looking all the world like scaly Incredible Hulks with shreds of their old skin falling away in bits and pieces.

In a way, it's a living metaphor for what it's like for us humans to go through change. Rarely do we shed our old selves neatly and all of a piece, but once we get through the messy process we are renewed, larger in spirit and better than we were before.

1 comment:

Lynn Zephryna said...

That's beautiful, Denise--thank you! It is just lovely to watch the baby lizards these days, but to slow yourself down enough to really appreciate and make friends with them is such a gift. Thanks for sharing the gift with us.

I love your last paragraph, on how we humans shed messily, and transform. Beautifully written.